I contacted 4 Therapy after a lengthy, unsuccessful history with therapy. A last ditch attempt to try and claw back the life I used to live and save my relationship.
After speaking to Beverly on the phone, I attended my first, initial consultation as a very angry, confused, obsessive, negative and what felt like 'helpless' girl. After 3 failed attempts at councelling and not feeling like I've got anywhere in the past, I instantly felt at ease with Beverly. I knew that this was fate- I was meant to get in touch and this would be the time it worked.
After only 7 sessions- my life has completely turned around. I am in a better place, not only with myself but in my relationship. I am better than I've ever been and so are me and my boyfriend- him continuously praising and noticing how far I've come.
I would have carried on 'existing' with the old life I had if I hadn't contacted Beverly and I can't thank her enough. I've learnt skills to help me through everyday life; I have a little Beverly on my shoulder whenever I'm doing things now.. making sure I make the right decisions.
Not only has she guided me emotionally, but has given me loads of advice to help me with my energy levels, food, meditation ideas.. the list is endless.
Although I feel a lot better than I did, I am going to carry on with my sessions to make sure I achieve my full potential to really love my life and keep practicing the tools to keep me on the positive path I am on.
Thank you so much :)
I would like to tell everyone how much I enjoyed and have benefited from engaging with you in "Energy for Life" coaching recently. I feel revitalised and ready to face everyday challenges with a new energy. I am sleeping and eating better and enjoying the new lease of life my body is starting to acknowledge with daily yoga exercises. I will be seeing you in the future to "top up" am sure and thank you again for your support.
I wasn't functioning fully as a human being." In fact it became so tiring being me that I knew I couldn't continue to live my life in the way that I was. It was for this very reason, that despite all the constant unconditional love and support that was given to me by my husband and family members, as well as friends. I knew that there was something else I needed to do, in order to become me again. Eighteen months ago, I contacted 4 therapy UK, in the hope of finding someone that I could talk to, to help me through a very difficult time in my life. It was then that I was contacted by Beverley by phone to arrange a first consultation appointment. Even from that very first moment, I had a feeling that I was going to be ok with her and I hadn't even met her at this stage! It was just the vibe I got from her and the way she spoke to me. She had a special way with words. We had our first meeting and straight away I felt so comfortable with her, even though I couldn't even look her in the face for at least the first few weeks. This was to be the start of a very special counsellor/ client relationship. Nothing was ever too much trouble for her, no matter what I said, no matter how complex my issues were, she was always there for me, sometimes sessions would over run, but it was never a problem. I would often text her or sometimes call her after sessions and she would always be there with the right things to say. In my opinion, Beverley is a real life guardian angel, she sees her profession as a vocation, not just a job and that was always evident in the way she approached sessions with me. I feel so privileged to have met Beverley. I will always remember her saying that people come in to your life for a reason, I'm a firm believer in this. I wouldn't be now expecting my first born child now, if it wasn't for Beverley, helping me to realise that you generate your own happiness and that you " can't live a positive life with a negative mind." All the positive energy that all human beings are capable of using is always there, even at the most challenging and low points in our lives, it is about channelling it in the right way to help us overcome those challenging and difficult times. Beverley, I never thought I would ever say this but you have completely transformed my life. I find myself using the tools you have taught me to help others, in order to champion the right positivity in people. As I am more aware of my own negative thoughts, when they occur, I now encourage others to try and come away from it too. I cannot recommend Beverley highly enough, she's a complete breath of fresh air. Highly exceptional counselling. I'm going to miss you lots Beverley, because you have made my life so complete now. God bless.
Sarah J ( Bury).
I sought help from Beverley when I was at a very low point in my life. I was struggling with a personal problem and I could see no way out. Beverley was completely unfazed by anything I told her and this helped me to open up, not just about my problem, but about many other areas of my life. I ended up telling her things that I had never told anyone else. Her personal warmth and empathy are palpable and you feel at ease very quickly.
During our sessions, she taught me how to re-examine my issues from another perspective and how to cope with life's hardships. The most surprising aspect of our sessions was how much we laughed together at life's absurdities. Going forward, I now have the tools and techniques to cope with the future and the constant churning sense of anxiety in my stomach has vanished completely. For that alone, I will always be grateful.
I started seeing Beverly as I was feeling stressed and anxious almost everyday, about things I had no control over. I was feeling anxious about feeling anxious, fear of fear and worried about panic.
I thought I could probably help myself out of this negative thinking pattern but I decided it would be better to see somebody just to give me that extra hand.
My sessions with Beverly were so relaxed, I felt like I was talking to a friend in a living room. I felt comfortable to tell her everything without any judgment.
Beverly helped me to adapt my thinking and helped me with ways to think about positive things instead of focussing on the negatives.
I'm now happier than I have ever been. I try to have as much fun as possible. If I am faced with a difficult situation I make a conscious effort to consider what Beverly taught me. I used to be scared of the underground, now I ride it nearly everyday. I used to fear big groups of new people and now I look forward to it. I had developed some bad thought patterns and habits but they're mostly gone now and I feel like I'm really living my life.
I will never be able to express my gratitude for everything you've done for me over the past weeks. You truly are an amazing person!
You have given me the tools to deal with everything in my life and advice that I use on a daily basis. Since coming to you my life has changed so much. I am a better person and everyone has noticed how much I've changed which in turn has had a positive effect on them as well.
I am truly thankful for your help and feel blessed that I was in a situation that led me to you!
I decided to look into therapy when my arachnophobia became more severe. I think the main benefit has been just taking an hour or so a week out of the norm to talk calmly, safely and perhaps surprisingly - independently - to someone about my irrational fears. Friends and family are wonderful and have done their best to help me in the past but I really think that with the help of Beverley and 4TherapyUK I have been able to accept the problems were of my own making and take huge steps in moving forward. Although I will never like the eight legged creatures, I can for now at least tolerate them and for me this has been an enormous step in the right direction. Anyone out there with any issues no matter how big or small I would strongly recommend them speaking to 4TherapyUK as they have really helped me and I am sure they will help you too.
I really can't thank you enough for everything you have done for me. I am very grateful to you for all your patience, understanding and determination over the past year. I reached a point in my life where I realised I wasn't myself. I felt I was being controlled by someone within me. Everyone was convinced my only hope of being 'normal' was medication. I however did not want this. An old friend had recommended Beverley to me and said she had helped her and was convinced she could help me too. The first time I met her it was very difficult for me, but as time went by it got easier and I built my trust with her. Beverley once told me people come into your life for a reason and I truly believe that. I am grateful to both, as without Beverley I don't like to think of where I would be today. She was there on the end of a phone when I found myself in an uncomfortable situation, reassuring me and helping me to step out of my comfort zone to live a happy life. Beverley has earned a very special place in my heart. she is amazing. I always dreamed of being Cinderella and have everything she wished for. I just never thought I would get my own fairy godmother to remind me of this wonderful life I already had, that seem so out of reach. On behalf of my family and of course myself, our biggest thank you goes out to you and everything you did for me ie. CBT, etc. I'm happy and over the moon that I'm in a different place mentally, but on the other hand I will miss the way I felt walking out of your office after therapy. You are a ray of sunshine and I will miss you lots. Thanks again,
Donna from Manchester
Hi Beverley, It has been a pleasure to be able to 'work' with you, and I will continue to recommend you to anyone I know. My testimonial as follows: In November 2010, I was diagnosed with depression. It was a frightening and bewildering time. I had had no experiences with mental health issues, or with anything beyond feeling 'a bit low.' The shock of finding myself in this situation made it very difficult to function on a day to day basis. I lost interest in doing much more than getting out of bed, but knew that I needed to do something to try to turn my life around. The single best decision that I made was to contact Beverley. Picking up the phone to make that first phone call was a really difficult moment, but as soon as had our initial consultation, I knew that I could work with her. Beverley's friendly manner and calm approach immediately helped me to feel less tense and anxious, and more relaxed. Through a series of CBT sessions, Beverley helped me work through some painful experiences and make sense of them. Slowly, I found myself able to start taking the things that she told me on board, and use them in my day to day life. Now, four months later, I feel more in control of my life than I ever have before. I feel totally rejuvenated, and I have a better understanding of who I am, and how to go about living a happy and positive life. I want to thank Beverley for her work with me; she has given me the tools and the knowledge to be able to be strong again. I cannot recommend her highly enough.
With much love, and thanks, Matthew
Dear Beverley, I would like to thank Beverley for helping me through what seemed like a mountain of a problem. I was weighed down by a phobia that had controlled me for years. I had 4 Cognitive behaviour sessions with Beverley and it made me feel each time like I had more and more control of the situation. I now lead what I consider to be a normal life and enjoy it. I still have negative thoughts but am now in control of them as I was taught how to handle them.
Thank you always. Adele. Bury.
Dear 4TherapyUK, I would like to thank and compliment, Beverley Sandler on her professionalism and helpfulness in counselling me through a bad episode in my life, brought on by a serious road accident.
Thank you Antony from Manchester
Dear Beverley, I just wanted to take the opportunity to express my sincere thanks for your invaluable help and guidance over the last six weeks. Thank you for listening and assisting me in rediscovering my zest for life. I will be eternally grateful for all the advice and skills that you have helped develop that will enable me to cope in the future. The insight I have gained with your assistance has been a true revelation. Once again thank you. You have been sincere, understanding and allowed me the forum to express myself honestly and freely.
Kindest regards Lee, from Prestwich
Dear Beverley I am writing to thank you, although I don't think words can describe the changes you have helped me make in my life. When I first started getting your help seven months ago I never thought I would be able to re- gain the confidence within myself to do the day to day things which seemed so hard and such a task before. Now seven months later not only am I very grateful for your very professional but personal therapy my friends and family are also very grateful for turning me back into the person I used to be, which is a more relaxed and happy person. During my therapy with you you have gone down every path you could in order to provide the help I needed as an individual not just as a routine therapist session. Thank you for all your help and I wouldn't even think twice about recommending you or your company to my family and friends.
Thank you Kelly, Whitefield.
Dear Beverley, "When I first saw Bev I knew I wasn't right but didn't know what was wrong, but it was having a negative effect on me and my relationship with others. I felt that I was existing rather than living. Through counselling with Bev she made me see everything in perspective and that I needed to respect myself as an individual and treat myself as I treated others as I was worth it. I feel I am starting to live now rather than exist although I still have to work at it but it's seems to be getting easier as time goes by and this is thanks to the support provided by Bev. When I first spoke to Bev over the phone I thought she sounded very nice and someone that I could talk with. On meeting her she made me feel very at ease and I felt comfortable with her. (she was also very accommodating as I had to bring my baby daughter to each session). I found her to be very easy to talk to and open up to and she made me think about things differently and look at things differently. The CBT exercises we did were very telling and have stayed with me and I still think back to them knowing that I've moved on from where I started and am on the road to where I want to be. Although I have finished seeing Bev she has given me the tools to continue on my road and hopefully deal with any setbacks I may have in the future. I would like to say thank you Bev as I'm not sure I'd be feeling the way I do today if it hadn't been for your support, guidance and advice.' I will let you know how things go and again thank you for your support.
Kind Regards Caroline
I would like to thank Beverley for turning my life around in a few months and helping me to rebuild the confidence and belief that events in my life had taken ten years to slowly destroy. Several events came together all at once and I could not cope with the stress and pointless reality that my life had become. I was not in control and had very little to look forward to. I thought it was just recent events that had become just too much for me to handle and so I looked for help.
Beverley was not the first person to try and help, but after our first meeting I knew I could trust her and that she actually cared about my problems. The meetings were very informal and friendly in a comfortable setting and I often ran over time without any problem. Slowly I started to regain my self belief and realise that my life was full of achievements that I took for granted and that new avenues were there if only I would reach out and try them.
It wasn't a miracle cure, but a gentle reconstruction of me, my life and my ambitions. Without the guidance and empathy that Beverley gave to me, I would probably still be on that downward slope wondering was the point was.
Thank you Beverley for being a friend and a mentor throughout the whole process. The teacher may have cured himself, but the teacher had one of the best teachers to guide him. May you help many more people regain their lives and I hope that when they need to take that first step in asking for help that they are lucky enough to chose you.
Best Regards, Graham - Middleton